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aOrq-mrd df byprd hoieaf irsLqf
blbIr isMG sUc, aYzvokyt, luiDafxf 

aOrq-mrd df irsLqf sB qoN vwD guMJldfr hY. keI vfrI qF ieAuN lgdf hY ik ijvyN DrqI `qy sB kuJ hI ies irsLqy `qy itikaf hovy. smfj dy qfxy-bfxy nMU bxfeI rwKx leI pqI-pqnI dy irsLqy nMU hI vwD mhfn ikhf igaf hY. ieh ieAuN hY ijvyN ies irsLqy nfloN smfj nMU vwD mhfnqf idwqI geI hovy. smfj nfl joV ky hI aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy nMU dyiKaf jFdf hY. awKIN dyKI trYiPk smwisaf nfloN vI vwD duKdfeI qy guMJldfr aOrq-mrd df irsLqf hY. trYiPk smwisaf qF hwl ho skdI hY pr aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy dI guMJl nMU hwl krnf musLkl lgdf hY. aOrq-mrd df irsLqf iewk dUjy dI KusLI dI tyk `qy GuMmxf cfhIdf hY nf ik mjLbUrI vws idn kwtI leI hI hovy.  

aOrq-mrd iewk dUjy `qy inrBr hn ikAuNik iewk dUjy nMU cfhuMdy hn qy kudrqI afpsI loV hY. ienHF qoN ibnF smfj dI gwl krnI aDUrI hY. aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy nMU smJx leI ijafdf jor idwqf jfxf cfhIdf hY nf ik smfj df iPkr hI irsLqy dI guMJl nMU hor guMJldfr krI jfvy. tFgf GoVy awgy lf ky qorn dI gwl nhIN krnI cfhIdI. aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy nMU KusLhfl bxfAux leI, guMJlF df hwl krnf hI aslI jIvn jfc hY. 

aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy dI tyk smfj df zr hI bixaf rhy qF ies nMU irsLqf kihxf, irsLqy nMU klMikq krn brfbr hI smJxf cfhIdf hY. ieh irsLqf donF dI KusLI nMU iDafn ivwc rwKidaF qih krnf cfhIdf hY nf ik smfjk loV jF mjLbUrI smJ ky hI irsLqf bxy. aOrq-mrd smfjI jIv hn. smfj irsLqy `qy hfvI ho irhf hY. irsLqf smfj `qy kdoN hfvI hovygf? Bfrq aMdr ajy ies dy hwl leI suqMqr soc dI kmI hY. iensfnI loVF qy mjLbUrIaF hmysLF irsLqy nMU ipCFh qy smfj nMU awgy KVHf kr idMdIaF hn. kdI smfj dI hoNd bymfanf njLr afAuNdI hY qy aOrq-mrd df irsLqf axkwijaf njLr afAuNdf hY. ieh irsLqy hn jF bMDn, socx qoN mjLbUr ho jFdy hF ikAuNik aOrq qy mrd, dovF df inmfxfpx pqf nhIN ikqnI inmfx qwk phuMc jFdf hY? ies dI hwdbMdI kIqI hI nhIN jf skdI. soc qoN vI bfhr dI gwl bxI hoeI hY. hr afdmI jF aOrq afpxI sLfdI smyN afpxy afpxy Drm muqfbk vfiedf krdy hn ik asIN iewk dUjy dy vPfdfr rhFgy pr aslIaq hor ho inwbVdI hY. iPr ieh ikho ijhy Dfrmk hoey?  

ieh iksy iekwly kihry dI gwl nhIN ho rhI. ieh irsLqf jrUrI hY jF mjLbUrI? jrUrI qy mjLbUrI ikAuN? aOrq-mrd irsLqf ienHF dy Kud jF smfj leI hY. irsLqy nMU rotI nfl joV ky dyKxf, kI rotI irsLqy nMU mjLbUqI bKsLdI hY jF ies dI aihmIaq nMU GtfAuNdI hY? svfl qoN bfad svfl pYdf hoeI jf rhy hn. kI ieh svfl ies irsLqy ivwc af cuwkIaf qryVF vwl sMkyq nhIN krdy? ieh svflF nMU nFh-pwKI soc kih ky, kI asIN irsLqy jF Kud nMU kithry ivwc KVHy krn qoN bc rhy huMdy hF? smfj, rotI, smfjk surwiKaf, dysL BgqI, AusfrU, mfrU afid muwdy KVHy kr ley jFdy hn jo aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy ivwc aVcxf bx Kloa jFdy hn. suqMqr soc hI irsLqy nMU shI ibafn kr skdI hY.  

smfj dy bMDn qoN mukq, pirvfrF dI durdsLf, isstm df KoKlfpx, hkUmq, pRsLfsn aqy puils dI cuwp qy imlIBugq df aMdfjf iksy isLkfieq dy hyT idwqy muwK ihwsy qoN lfieaf jf skdf hY: 

“myrI nMUh jo ik bdcln hY aqy keI keI mhIny GroN bfhr vI kwt afAuNdI hY aqy sfnMU hmysLF cuwp rihx leI zrfAuNdI DmkfAuNdI rihMdI hY aqy sfzy vwloN ies nMU ies qrHF dy glq kMmF qoN rokx ’qy ies ny aqy myrIaF poqIaF ny pihlF vI jfn dyx dI koisLsL kIqI sI aqy hux iPr mYnMU DmkIaF dy rhIaF hn ik agr qusIN mUMh Koilaf qF asIN iPr kuJ Kf ky jF iksy vI qrHF afqm hwiqaf krky quhfnMU donF nMU aMdr krvf dyxf hY aqy quhfzy qoN bfad iPr asIN afpxI mrjLI muqfbk jo vI cfhIey ijs qrHF cfhIey krIey, sfzy kol kOx afAuNdf hY aqy asIN ikwQy jFdIaF hF, sfnMU puwCx vflf koeI nhIN rhygf. asIN Aukq qoN bhuq hI prysLfn rihMdy hF kdy koeI qy kdy koeI iehnF pfs afAuNdf hY aqy sfzf ijAuxf iehnF ny hrfm kIqf hoieaf hY. sfzf GroN bfhr inklxf vI bhuq musLikl hoieaf hY aqy asIN iehnF vwloN kIqy jFdy glq DMidaF kfrn sLrimMdy GroN bfhr vI nhIN inkl skdy aqy jd vI Gr ivwc koeI aYsf kMm huMdf hY aqy mYN mnHf krdI  hF qF myrI nMUh AusI smyN myry mUMh qy cpyVF mfr idMdI hY”.   

aijhf tolf smfj nMU qfropIzf ikwQo qwk kr cuwikaf hovygf aqy awgoN ies qoN kI afs kIqI jf skdI hY? kI aOrq-mrd df byprd irsLqf mfrU rUp aKiqafr nhIN kr cuwikaf hY jF ienHF dI afjLfdI df nF dy ky afAux vflIaF nslF nMU vI BfrqI smfj dI mfr df Kimafjf Bugqx leI Cwz dyxf cfhIdf hY? ieh ikho ijhI aOrq-mrd dI byprdf dfsqfn hY?  

srdfr KusLvMq isMG (nf kfhUM sy dosqI…) afpxy afp nMU iZwlf mwTf nfsiqk kihMdf hY. Auh afpxI pqnI dy mrn AuprMq Bfxy `coN idlfsf lYx dI QF goaf `c jf ky smuMdr dy iknfry rMgIn njLfiraF `coN hI sMqusLtI imlx dI vkflq krdf hY. Aus nMU suqMqr soc rwKx vfly lyKkF dI kqfr ivwc KVf krky dyiKaf jf skdf hY. Auh vI iksy AulFBy qoN bcx leI suqMqr qOr `qy swc khI jfx vflI gwl nMU ipwCy qy imwTf ijhf lyp krky hor lyK nMU awgy ilK ky pysL krn df afdI hY, BfvyN iewko smyN Cfpy jf rhy lyK dy ivsLy iewk dUjy nfloN iswty vjoN imldy-juldy huMdy hn qy ivroDI vI. imsfl vjoN ‘pRvfsI BfrqI’ `c dysL BgqI dI Jlk pysL krdf hY aqy iewko smyN jrnYl isMG nMU ‘juwqI mfr dI khfxI’ isrlyK hyT Xfd krky AusdI aihmIaq nMU GtfAuNdf hoieaf vI Aus (jrnYl isMG) dI isPq vD krdf hY qy ilKdf hY, “... jrnYl isMG df insLfnf (iCwqr) imwQI hoeI QF Auqy hI lwigaf[[[[[[[[[[” (Jarnail Singh hit the target he had in mind). suqMqr soc nMU qF ‘pRvfsI BfrqI’ isrlyK qoN pihlF jrnYl isMG dI khfxI kihxI qy ilKxI bxdI sI.  

sR[ KusLvMq isMG jo ‘rMnf `c DMnf’ dy qOr `qy vI jfixaf jFdf hY qy ies qrHF jfxy jFdy hox dI KusLI vI lYNdf hY ny aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy nMU nf icqiraf hovy, Blf ikvyN ho skdf hY? ies sMdrB ivwc Auh sfP ilKdf hY, “pqI-pqnI df irsLqf bhuq hI KLusLI BrpUr hoxf cfhIdf hY, jy aijhf nhIN huMdf qF AunHf nMU afpxf hor sfQI jF dosq cux lYxf cfhIdf hY”.  

cotI dy iswK ivdvfn sR[ sMq isMG mskIn jI df jIvn hr ivsLy nMU gurbfxI `coN hvfilaF nfl smJfAuNdy bIiqaf. AunHF df kQn hY ik, “keI vfr ijs nfl ijMnf vwD ipafr EnI hI vwD dusLmxI ivwc ipafr df irsLqf bdl jFdf hY”. jdoN pqI-pqnI ivwc ieh siQqI AuqpMn ho jfvy qF Aus qoN vwD nrk hor dyiKaf hI nhIN jf skdf. myrI pqnI afpxI mF dy hvfly nfl ieAuN kih hI idMdI hY, “ijs Gr ivwc qIvIN afdmI df myl nhIN, hor nrk dI loV nhIN”. 

ieh Kfs qOr `qy ieh siQqI pqI-pqnI drimafn Aus vyly bxdI hY jdoN iewk dUjy qoN iewCfvF dI pUrqI dI BuwK dI afs idnoN idn sB hwd bMny twpdI jf rhI hovy. smfjI bMDn ies BuwK nMU ZwkI rwKdf hY. pqI-pqnI dI afpsI iGrxf, qxfa, ivroD df Gux donF nMU hI aMdroN KoKlf kr idMdf hY. AunHF dI rojLfnf dy kMm kfr krn dI smrwQf vI Gwt jFdI hY. iPr iksy isafxy qoN mfVy isqfiraF df kfrn puwCx dI loV hI nhIN rihMdI. buwkl ivwc dusLmx ibTf ky, cVHdI klf dI gwl hvfeI ikly Ausfrn vFg hI huMdI hY. buwJy dIvy qoN cfnx dI afs ikvyN? dovyN hI jgdy dIvy dI qlfsL ivwc vwK-vwK idsLf vwl qury huMdy hn. iPr ieh eykqf ikho ijhI? sLFqI ikwQy? qrwkI ikvyN? qF smfjk bMDn qoV ky sfkfrfqmk PYslf krnf hI cfhIdf hY. pr kfhlI nfl kIqf PYslf hor musLklF nMU vI swdf dy skdf hY. mfnisk sMquln rwK ky ley PYsly druwsq huMdy hn. awgoN pCqfAuxf nhIN pYNdf.  

pqI-pqnI jF aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy `c KusLI dI pRfpqI srIrk qMdrusqI qy shI ivDI ivDfn nfl kIqy sMBog (Sex) qy kfPI inrBr krdI hY. iewk Cwq Qwly sNONidaF aOrq, mrd qoN pYrF dy nUMh qoN lY ky isr dy vfl dy isry qwk ipafr dI afs rwKdI hY. pr bhuqy mrd qF afpxI mrdfngI df pRgtfvf Dwkf-muwkI qy iewk pfsV jbr nfl hI drsfAuNdy hn qy iewQoN qwk kih jFdy hn ik af ijs dI qYnMU BuwK hY, qyrf Pfhf vwZF[[[ afid ijs nMU ik ipafr ikhf hI nhIN jf skdf. afpsI suBfa ivwc afeI  iBMnqf qoN bfad, mrd dy aijhy vrqfvy sfhmxy smF gujLrdf hmysLF aOrq dy leI duwKF ’c vfDf krdf rihMdf hY. aijhy mfhOl ivwc suwK dI afs mrd vI nhIN kr skdf. ijs aOrq nMU mrd qoN sMBog smyN inwG imlx dI QF jlIl hoxf pvy, Aus leI Aus Gr ivwc hor pdfrQ vI quwC jfpdy hn. aOrq afpxI KusLI dI pRfpqI leI, pqI vwloN kIqf Dfrmk Dwkf/pirvrqn qk vI sOiKaF sLih lYNdI hY.  

aOrq dI ies smwisaf df hwl smfjk bMDn qoV ky lwBxf cfhIdf hY. BfvyN aijhf kihxf BfrqI smfj ivwc ies irsLqy nMU nMgf krn vflI gwl hI khI jf skdI hY. ieh smwisaf sQfeI smfjk bMDn kfrn byprdf nhIN kIqI jf rhI hY. ies dy byprdf nf hox kfrn aOrq df sLOsLx krn dy sLOkIn, ies bMDn nMU pqI-pqnI ivwc pwkI drfV pYdf krn leI vrqx ivwc kfmXfb rihMdy hn. GroN sMqusLtI dI QF pqI-pqnI afpxI alwg idsLf aKiqafr krdy hoey, bfhroN sMqusLtI dI qlfsL ivwc inkl pYNdy hn. ieh bMDn qy dosL nMU byprdf nf krn leI pUrf BfrqI smfj dosLI hY. bwicaF qy mF-bfp dI soc ivwc pIVI dr pIVI df aMqr sQfeI hY jo aigafnqf kfrn hor vwD irhf hY. pwCmI swiBaqf ies dosL qoN mukq hY.  

awj qoN 41 sfl pihlF pUry dysL ivwcoN nvyN BrqI ho ky afey BfrqI hvfeI sYinkF nMU zfktrI pysLy nfl juVy mfihr vwloN sMBog qoN AuqpMn hox vflIaF bImfrIaF qoN bcx leI muwZlI jfxkfrI idwqy jfx smyN ieh svfl vI pYdf hoieaf sI ik aOrq dI sMqusLtI mrd qoN ikvyN huMdI hY? jvfb ivwc anfVIaF vFg ijs iksy ny jvfb idwqf, iehI ikhf ik iewko smyN vwD smF lgfqfr sMBog krn nfl. bhuqy nvyN hvfeI sYink svfl sux ky cuwp hI rhy. ies jvfb nMU sux ky zfktrI pysLy ivwc mfihr awg bbUlf ho igaf sI, pqf nhIN Aus ny guwsy ivwc af ky, ieh jvfb dyx vfilaF nMU keI KLrIaF KotIaF suxfeIaF. aksr keI mrd vwD nsLy qy dvfeIaF df syvn iewko smyN vwD smF lgfqfr sMBog krn leI krdy hn. sLurU ivwc BfvyN ieh nsLy TIk lwgx pr aMq mrd df srIrk qMqU pRbMD kmjLor pYx `qy aOrq nsLweI jF dvfProsL qoN nPrq krdI hY. Gr ivwc iPr qxfa mukqI dy bhfny, aijhy mrd hor vwD nisLaF df afsrf lYx lwg pYNdy hn. Aus vyly zfktrI pysLy nfl juVy mfihr ny aOrq nfl sMBog krn qoN pihlF ipafr nUM isKrF qwk ikvyN lY jfxf hY, Kuwl ky dws idwqf sI.  iewko smyN vwD smF lgfqfr sMBog krn leI lfAuxf jrUrI nhIN hY. kI sfry BfrqI lok ies pRqI jfgrUk hn? kI BfrqI smfj ivwc slfh-msLvry dI axhoNd qy Gft nhIN hY? ieh svfl hux bdl rhy hflfqN ivwc idmfgI cyqnf pYdf krn leI hr iewk nMU jrUr mjLbUr krngy.  

pqI-pqnI, aOrq-mrd dy irsLqy aqy mnuwKI aiDkfrF df nF ley ibnHF, KusLvMq isMG ny KLusLI  df rfh (Road to happiness) pYx qy sMqusLt jIvn ijAux leI kuJ nukiqaF nMU apnfAux leI ieAuyN iliKaf hY:  

awCI ishq aiq jrUrI hY. afrQk surwiKaf leI kfPI jmF pUMjI BfvyN kroVF ivwc nf hI hovy pr afrfm, afnMd mfnx ijvyN bfhr GuMmx, Kfx-pIx, sYr-spfty leI, phfVI jF smuMdrI kMZy jfx, isnymf afid leI jrUr hovy. pYsy dI kmI iensfn nMU Zih-ZyrI krI rwKdI hY. AuDfr shfry jF krjeI rih ky ijAux nfl mfx Gtdf aqy afpxIaF hI njLrF ivwc igr ky ijAux vFg hY. afpxf Gr hovy. ikrfey df mkfn Auh KusLI dy nhIN skdf jo KLusLI afpxI mflkI dy Gr ivwc imldI hY. jy Gr aMdr bfg-bgIcI hovy, Kud pOdy AugfE, AunHF nMU vwDdy-Pwuldy qy iKVdy dyK ky afnMd mfxo qy AunHF nfl iewk irsLqy df aihsfs pYdf kro.  

BfvyN quhfzI jIvx sfQI jF dosq hovy, jy Aus ivwc axigxq glqPihmIaF pYdf hoeIaF hox qF Auh quhfzy mMn dI KusLI Koh lYxgIaF. awCf hY qlfk lY lvo bjfey sfrf smF JgVy ’c ibqfE. afpxy nfloN vwD qrwkI krn vfilaF nfl eIrKf nf kro. dUsiraF nfl afpxI qulnf nf kro. gwp-sLwp vfilaF qoN bco. AuhnF dIaF gwpF-sLwpF jdoN qk Auh quhfzf ipwCf Cwzx, quhfnMU QkfAux, bycYn qy jLihrIlf kr dyxgIaF.  

jIvx `c iksy nf iksy sLugl nMU apxfE ijvyN bfgbfnI, pVHn, ilKx, pyitMg, Kyzx jF sMgIq suxn dy sLugl. klwbF ivwc jfxf, muPq dI sLrfb pIxf, smyN dI brbfdI krn df aprfD hY. rojL suBf-sLfm 15 imMt afpf pVcol krn leI ibqfE. svyry 10 imMt mn nMU sLFq rwKx leI idE aqy 5 imMt idn `c kIqy jfxf vfly kMmF dI ilst iqafr krn leI, sLfm nMU iPr 5 imMt mn nMU sLFq rwKx leI idE aqy 10 imMt idn dy kIqy kMmF `qy Jfq mfrn leI ibqfAuxy cfhIdy hn.  

iewQy ies ivsLy `qy ilKx dI loV mihsUs hoeI ikAuNik aOrq-mrd df irsLqf jo Zwikaf sI Auh byprd huMdf jf irhf hY. prdy dI aihmIaq alwg hI hMudI hY ijvyN kudrq ny hr jIv vsqU nMU cmVI, iClky afid dy nfl Zwikaf hoieaf hY. ienHF dI imafd prdy nfl vDfeI hoeI hY. iesy pRkfr hI ZuwkvyN ilvfs nfl ZwkI hoeI suMdrqf dI alwg hI idwK huMdI hY jo awj byprdf ho rhI hY.  

jy horF dIaF musLklF nMU joV ky sbr krnf qy idlfsf lYxf hY qF gurU df mhF vfk:

 “nfnk duKIaf sBu sMsfru..”

( Nanak, the whole world is in distress) nMU Xfd rwKx dI loV hY. 

jIvx ijAux leI KusLhflI qy jIvx kwtx leI mMdhflI hY. ies dy leI skIm qy cox qF hr mnuwK nMU afpxy ZMg nfl bxfAuxI qy krnI hI hovygI. nMg dI afjLfdI, Ausdy sfry pirvfr dI afjLfdI ikvyN ho skdI hY? nMg nfl nMgy rihxf, bfkIaF vwloN ikvyN brdfsLq kIqf jf skdf hY? dwsy nukiqaF muqfbk jIvx ijAux leI KusLhflI df rfh apnfAuxf hI TIk hY. ies nfl hI aOrq qy mrd df byprdf hoeI jf irhf irsLqf KusLI ivwc bdl skdf hY. KusLI afpxy aMdroN lwBo. ieh quhfzI afpxI soc 'qy inrBr hY.  

jy swc muwc hI aglf jIvn hY qF rwbf hr iewk nMU bqOr pqI-pqnI aqy aOrq-mrd jIvn ibqfAux leI Aupr idwqy nukiqaF muqfbk hflfq qy vfqfvrx dyx dI Kycl krIN. jy ies ilKq nfl pqI-pqnI aqy aOrq-mrd dy mnF ivwc nyVqf ilaFdI nf jf skI qF muafPI cfhuMdf hF.  

PrIdf mY jfixaf duKu muJ kU duKu sbfieaY jig]
AUcy ciV kY dyiKaf qF Gir Gir eyhf aig]

arQ:

“PrIdf, myrf iKafl sI ik mYnMU iekwly nMU hI qklIPL hY,
pRMqU sfrf sMsfr hI qklIPL ivc hY”

Farid, I thought I alone was in trouble, but, the world is in trouble.

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